How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

4 ਮਾਰਚ 2020
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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • Thank youuu, I loved ittt😭❤❤

    Diannelis VelozDiannelis Veloz30 ਮਿੰਟ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • There should be more people like him...

    Zeba ThamimZeba Thamimਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Best TED talk ever. You won't regret watching it

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  • Maaf ya allah hamba liat ini.

    May HaiMay Hai5 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Great presentation 🙏. First 16 minutes = Last 1.5 minutes 😎

    Veerendra SarovarVeerendra Sarovar8 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Who is this buffoon?

    Peter LloydPeter Lloyd10 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • thank you fred

    Ashok MudliarAshok Mudliar11 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • The end bit really hit.

    Faabiha khanFaabiha khan12 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Anytime I want to feel bad about myself I just listen to a TED Talk.

    KyaraExMachinaKyaraExMachina15 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Thanks for this Frederik. I just ran a football coaching session yesterday and it was informally assessed without any real prior notice. Myself and the other coach got slammed by the assessor. I'm qualified in training and assessment myself and felt although the assessment was correct, it was not delivered in a fair manner. I have taken it all personally. This has helped me deal with it on a day when I'm considering giving the coaching with this organisation away, which would mean letting down twenty young players and their parents. I'm very glad I came along this presentation at exactly the right time.

    Angus WheatonAngus Wheaton16 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Why does he sound British and French at the same time? I think the talk so far though.

    Gonzo GutierrezGonzo Gutierrez17 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • this is deff KDBs dad, from Belgium too

    GANESH MEJI-OSPINAGANESH MEJI-OSPINA20 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • im right is the big problem with soeity right now lol

    JoeyJoey20 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Jesus loves you

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  • RUBBISH!

    Bander FrankBander Frank23 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • This hits hard when you feel bad about yourself

    Cookie MonsterCookie Monster23 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Try not to take it personally. 🍪

      Zee AviZee Avi7 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
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  • Brilliant. thank you!

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  • "Ego is the enemy "as in the book by same name .

    cancer drcancer drਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Very informative! Emotional training should be a part of parenting and school/college curriculum.

    Nishtha SharmaNishtha Sharmaਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • 6:54 is when the tips start

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  • XXXXX

    May HaiMay Haiਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I am offended that PAworld thinks I take things personally. I mean, why recommend this.

    SeunSeunਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • It’s not about you, it’s about PAworld’s intention

      Ern TellezErn Tellez19 ਘੰਟੇ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • soooo..did he give the guy the 20 euros???? lol

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  • Aaaaaaaaaahhhhh .

    May HaiMay Haiਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Excellent talk - thx - this was a big help !

    Clutch CargoClutch Cargoਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Is this man taken?! What a gem!

    Rachel BuquetRachel Buquetਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • wow this is one of my super favorite ted talks!! it made me feel a little better about myself. thank you so much for this, sir!! 💕

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  • Why can't they teach this stuff in school? Could have saved me years of unnecessary pain thinking everything is about me. 😭😪😭

    TheGuideTheGuideਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • "Seems like crowd its more busy on there iphones.

    Romantico PoetaRomantico Poetaਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • A very clear, engaging and structured talk with a powerful finish! I also love the smooth transitions from one subject to another - had my attention from start to finish. Thank you! 😊 👏

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  • 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

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  • Thank you. In a time such as this your words speak volumes

    Alexandra HoldenAlexandra Holdenਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • It was outstanding speech ❤️

    Malak WesamMalak Wesamਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Wow! His speech was very entertaining and spot on. I have the same things he described.

    Tricia ShortridgeTricia Shortridgeਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Great leason

    Roman Boyzov Photography & VideographyRoman Boyzov Photography & Videographyਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • But being neglected by loved one hurts

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  • He sold himself with his last act!

    Viraj GordeViraj Gordeਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I could listen to him talk about anything and everything. He has so much positive energy!

    Unfunny BunnyUnfunny Bunny2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Thanks a lot! ❤️🙏

    Laxmi LoveLaxmi Love2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Why I thinking if I commented something here what others think

    Addakula AshokAddakula Ashok2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • This video helps a lot I used to take Soo many things personally

    falloutgirl 65falloutgirl 652 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • the last line is the essential

    tanya yetanya ye2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • The real question is, does he use the same 20 euros everytime he gives his talk

    miss aerymiss aery2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • the thumbnail looks like Prince Harry.. and im like.. oh.. isn't he the epitomy of currently taking things personally

    Carpediem06Carpediem062 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • The secret is to stop caring !

    Matthew ArcatiMatthew Arcati2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • im taking the silence of the audience personally

    Alejandro FlañoAlejandro Flaño2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I especially love the last part of his speech!

    Frances OleanderFrances Oleander2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Ted Talk shoud invite David Goggins

    Marvini PereiraMarvini Pereira2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • If u take it personally why should I listen to u? Goodbye

    Kalle QuistKalle Quist2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • For those who have been " victims " of " cancel culture ", we must remember, we still have value.

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  • love.

    May HaiMay Hai2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I hope Mj doesn't see this video 😮

    Prince FlipPrince Flip2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • This is the most connected I have felt with someone in months. Wow. Frederik is an excellent speaker and this topic is what I have struggled with the most through life. I always know the talk has made a lasting imprint if it's got me tearing up with happiness at the end lol. Like finding a solution to what eats at you the most.... or at least a two-way approach to handling it. Thank you so much.

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  • Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information:)

    Mohd ShahnawazMohd Shahnawaz3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Het probleem is dat we dat vrijwel allemaal doen.

    Liliane BeeckmanLiliane Beeckman3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Horrible feedback and ringing in this video. Almost can’t watch. Nothing personal

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  • great!

    Ghanhsyam BhavsarGhanhsyam Bhavsar3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Really good story telling. I felt like a kid being read a story.

    Adriana B.Adriana B.3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • 80% of what we think are negative 🤔 cool...I thought it was just a Baltimore City thing..

    Castro JesusCastro Jesus3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I am an Orange

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  • Brilliant stuff, personally it was an epiphany.

    Udaysen MohiteUdaysen Mohite3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Actually, referees have coins they are either the ball or the goal.

    Batuhan KavlakBatuhan Kavlak3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • And i took that personally

    Bruh frBruh fr3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Just brilliant

    zeljka markoviczeljka markovic3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • What an nice guy!

    Gamer007Gamer0074 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • this is an amazing ted talk !

    monggyo Wmonggyo W4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Monggyo, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I'm not crying, you're crying.

    Alex CowlesAlex Cowles4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • damn ending was epic❤

    Tanmay SinghalTanmay Singhal4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • @Frederik Imbo I just had a doubt, what if no-one raised hand to accept that note, what would you do then?

      Tanmay SinghalTanmay Singhal4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Thank you Tanmay! Please spread the word!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • That's such a great video

    Adonis MxAdonis Mx4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Sent this to my mom and pops I hope they don’t take it personally

    Angel GAngel G4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • And if they do, please don't take it personally. You know how now!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Epic

    RED exPUARED exPUA4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I don't feel right about being empathetic to wrong people. How come I compromise on not being right to wrong people. Its tough

    Niranjan KhadkaNiranjan Khadka4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Niranjan. You don't have to anything if it doesn't feel right. You only empathize with someone if you want to. If you feel that you however want to keep your heard open. As long as you don't want it... it means that you're stuck in your ego. Which is not good or bad. It is just was it is. You give empathy because you don't want to feel yourself annoyed or frustrated. You do it because you want to be in peace with the other one.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • So excellent. I really needed to hear this.

    Victor CarlisleVictor Carlisle4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • 4:30 you'll thank me =)

    Al'set BarnabiAl'set Barnabi4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • This is a great lesson, given by a sympathetic guy

    Mike BannerMike Banner4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Hahahahaha you are describing me... I feel hurt when not acknowledged and take things very personally... thanks for pointing it out .. enjoyed this

    naijamannnaijamann4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • @Frederik Imbo thanks for the assitance.. will share.. ive started practicing not taking things personally.. I'm now conscious of areas to apply it.. my heartbreak..office critisms I'm still myself and have my value..and worth

      naijamannnaijamann2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Naijamann, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Hey you, yes you 😊. you're probably scrolling through the comments like me. Just remember you are a beautiful person and deserve all the happiness in the world. Take some time to work on you, don't stress about whats going on in the world, or what you are going through. Its time to live your life, we only get one! Things will get better soon, I promise. ❤ Relaxing Music, Karma Llama. ❤

    Karma LlamaKarma Llama4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • How sweet! Thank you.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
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    Nickolas SmithNickolas Smith5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I needed this. Bad! More than food for today. I hear a lot of things that I can transition into my personality and character. This was absolute substance.

    7LAMPS of FIRE7LAMPS of FIRE5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Just that last 1 minute of the video is worth it all! Great message 🥰

    J. O.J. O.5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi J.O., Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Michael Jordan needs to watch this.

    Ronaldo GarrosuRonaldo Garrosu5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Haha indeed Ronaldo. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan only tried to do his very best. He tried to deal with his unfulfilled needs of recognition. He just wanted to be valued.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Beautiful allegory and amazingly authentic emotional intelligence teachings in the tea break time❤💙💚 Many thanks 😊

    Maciej MagicMaciej Magic5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Maciej Magic. Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Thank you for sharing this. It opened me to a whole new perspective of thinking on things that happened to me. It definitely takes a lot of courage and experience to be able to talk and relate to things that hits us so deep. Much appreciation here!

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    Renaat DeckersRenaat Deckers5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Mr. Frederck Imbo I’ m telling all my stydents& friends your story of the football- referee! A very fine ted talk! 👍👍

      Renaat DeckersRenaat Deckers2 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • @Renaat Deckers You're very welcome Renaat. Graag gedaan.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Thank you Frederick Imbo

      Renaat DeckersRenaat Deckers5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Very cool

    Homéostasie999Homéostasie9995 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Wow great ending, I read during the video similar comments to mine but didn’t expect that at the end, thank gosh ppl didn’t spoil the ending .. great quality video & lesson .. always remember your value .. 🙏🏾

    Josh EasyJosh Easy5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Amazing Advice

    Mr.WolfmanPlushiesMr.WolfmanPlushies5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • I think the reason you don't take it personally when someone calls you an orange is because it is just a ridiculous thing to say to some one

    bees waspsbees wasps5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Sometimes you do have to take things personally

    bees waspsbees wasps5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Bees Wasps. If you mean that 'taking things personally' helps you to come up for yourself and let the other one see and feel that he does something that crosses a boundary, feel free to do it. I'm only concerned then that your reaction might be quite punishing and agression. And that could lead to a conflict. But of course, you can do whatever you want. As long as you're willing to take the consequences of your behaviour then.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • قشعريره

    light throw cloudslight throw clouds5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • beautiful!

    AHSAN ALAMAHSAN ALAM5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Thank you Ahsan.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Loved the ending!!!! Impactful!

    Diane GyemiDiane Gyemi5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Diane. Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Thank you Frederik! I take everything personally so I really needed this. I’m definitely going to practice strengthening my ability to handle criticism. Like with anything else in life, it’s all strengthened through practice. 👍

    southlondon86southlondon865 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
  • Oh great job moreover the conclusion🇨🇩🙏🏽🙏🏽✌️

    ROPHEKA WA MANZAMBIROPHEKA WA MANZAMBI5 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • @Frederik Imbo thank you sir. I experienced some parts of your speech in 2020 which was a difficult year for the all world but for me it was a great year to know or discover myself as person besides a spiritual man (I serve God). 2020 left me with testimonies 🇨🇩 again Great Job sir.

      ROPHEKA WA MANZAMBIROPHEKA WA MANZAMBI3 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
    • Hi Ropheka, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 ਦਿਨ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ
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